Chuk Astrocreep said:
some of those things apply to me(going out of my way to do something nice) but i havent been shy with girls since i was 15 and discovered alcohol and realized that im too reserved sober and need to act out more. i also have confidence, i am always joking and friendly and women like all that stuff, i get my share of pussy. relationships i dont fare so well. just seems like i get favored(asked to do stuff) and have to jump through hoops far more than with someone that says, lets stay at home, rent a movie and spend the evening together. oh well, i think im going to be a lifelong angry bachelor. one of those old guys you see shopping at the supermarket arguing with the cashier because they charged your ramen noodles an extra 20 cents.
Everything I say is going to sound retarded and half-baked. I"m in a rush to get out the door.
Man, it"s tough to say. When I was in the dating scene, I tried to be cautious about putting terms on the relationship too early. I"d just go along with things. I wasn"t planning on settling down with any of them, so I was always just in it "for a good story." Sometimes if you be the nice guy doing favors, you get lucky, and sometimes not.
Try this: instead of playing games, or trying to be a dick, just say exactly what you"re feeling. If they ask you to do some ridiculous thing, just ask yourself "do I really want to do that?" and if not, just say it. If you"re a fake wimp when the relationship starts, it"s going to be expected that you stay that way throughout the relationship. You don"t have to purposefully be a dick, just don"t go along with things just because you think the girl wants you to. That"s just leading you down a shitty-ass road.
This is going to be the absolutely gayest thing ever written on these boards. It"s gayer than Greyves, Aamina and Jerle all butt-fucking eachother in a giant circle with shit and cum flying around, but I always admired the Brandon Walsh (90210) and Jack Shepherd (LOST) characters. They didn"t take shit from anyone and always said exactly what they were feeling.
Edit: note, this advice goes both ways when it comes to sexual things. On your first date with a girl, you should feel free to pull her in and kiss her. I always just pull a girl in and kiss her when she"s least expecting it on a first date (of course, granted we have chemistry). But if you"re in a long term relationship, and you see a smoking hot 17 year old, you can"t tell your GF that you want nothing more than to have that 17 year old sit on your face so you can try to lick her cervix.
Dabamf said:
You probably drop your game when dating because you think you can. Unfortunately, you can"t. Women continuously test you throughout a relationship, so you have to have certain boundaries and be willing to assert them any time. When you like a girl you start wanting to do special things for them, but if they aren"t doing the same, that"s a warning sign.
100% agree.
Aamina said:
Look, I am acase studyin how to treat/not treat women. I was unfailingly nice and sensitive to a woman I was married to, and that didn"t work. Tried the dating scene, being unfailingly nice, and it was hard to get dates at all.
The minute I started treating women like shit, like they were the last thing on my list, the dates rolled in. I don"t know what it is but they seriouslyenjoy being ignored. It doesn"t make any sense at all. But it"s yielded tons of dates and more than a few booty calls after dates.
No offense, but you are clueless. You have no idea what you are talking about and doing. Congratulations on having sex finally, but you are clueless. THIS IS NOT AN INSULT. I just don"t think you have a clue.
Ser Kegkilla said:
women are pretty much all awful cunts by nature, which is tricky because they try so hard to convey exactly the opposite. you pretty much have to give them the impression they don"t mean shit to you and you will have no problem kicking them to the curb to prevent them walking all over you.
try sending out some mixed signals to your next gf. for example, try a nice kiss on the forehead, followed by casually mentioning how much you"d like to facefuck her best friend.
Pretty much the funniest thing I"ve read in a very, very long time I love you Keg!