wormie 2.0
I'm expecting the same payoff: radio silence.
So much this.
It has been laid out for him in the nicest possible way. Even KHANE of all people used the kids glove approach and was dead on with his advice, and Khane usually likes being devil's advocate in these scenarios. And Grabbit is still trying to rationalize nuking his marriage out of boredom. Not even because his wife is not putting out enough but because she is not putting out in his preferred degree of kinky. Someone has to be the asshole here, so.....
Situation as you have described it (correct me if I am wrong here):
Wife is in decent shape, physically and mentally, to the point you are attracted to her.
You are in love with this woman.
This woman keeps an orderly life and house, with no drama or hassle for you.
You get plenty of sex, but are unsatisfied with her level of kink.
You hit the gym and Chadded up and are getting hit on by young thots.
What is the fucking issue exactly? You made a vow. You have a great woman (by your own accounts). Your life is stable and drama free. Be a fucking man and keep your vow. This IS all there is. This is the fucking point. Drama free partnership with someone with good self esteem and you find desirable is winning at life. No situation is ever going to be perfect and no human is, either. There are probably one or two things your wife is dissatisfied with you about. But adults learn to accept that when the important shit that really matters is right. Be a fucking man and honor your god damn vows. If you are sexually bored, go download some degenerate shit and rub one out or something, because this midlife crisis shit is going to end in about 5-8 years anyhow. All you have to do is have the discipline to realize what you have and ride it out.
Ironically, your wife hit the real issue on the head. You ARE the woman in your relationship. You have everything any reasonable person could ask for in a relationship and you are trying to rationalize setting your life on fire because one or two things are not perfect. You did the whole "doll myself" up thing at the gym in the run up to this whole getting ready to step out thing, just like women who are getting ready to cheat tend to do. And worse than all of this, you took some nudes that got dangled in front of you (no one believes you deleted these btw) and used them to gain leverage on your wife in a whole "see, I can do better if you won't meet my demands" maneuver. You topped that whole play off by making sure to defend the little thot from harm, when having your wife go nuclear on some dumb whore might actually be the sort of excitement you claim to be looking for. And then when it was made clear to you the fact that there is zero emotional fulfillment to be had from some 20 year old airhead (especially the kind who sends nudes to a married guy), you pivoted to the concept of cheating with women more your own age. You are a bored house wife trying to justify trading up to yourself. It is comical how spot on the parallel is.
What you should do is man the fuck up, apologize to your wife for entertaining temptation, and work this out with her. Your literally having the whole female biological clock ticking thing going on, which is why you went full chad and are thinking about banging women half your age in the first place. Recognize it for what it is and stick to the straight and narrow. Don't put yourself in the path of temptation. Get into counseling if the lack of kink is enough of a stress for you that you are tempted to nuke your otherwise perfect life from orbit. But most of all, stop being a fucking woman and trying to rationalize shitty behavior out of selfishness. There was no sane reason to show those nudes to your wife, beyond emotional blackmail. If you felt guilty, you would have deleted them and told said thot "sorry not interested on the spot" or kept them secretly for your personal spank bank. Telling the wife and then protecting the little home wrecker from her (in essence picking another woman over your wife in a fidelity argument) is the height of stupid.
What you will do, however, is pull a Wormie (or Lindz) here. You will ignore all the advice and rationalize destroying your life over what you have already admitted is inconsequential emotional bullshit. You will step out, possibly trading the wife in for the younger version of the same person like Wormie did. Maybe you will go full retard and bang one of her friends, given your stated "emotional" needs. Thing is any woman in your age bracket who is actually available (e/g/ not cheating themselves) is going to have tons of baggage (and kids) or be batshit, unless their the rare bird like MsG who is a widow at an early age. Who knows, but you will justify sticking your dick where it does not belong and follow through. BUT.....
..IF you do decide to trash your life, you are right about one key thing. Do it now. You say your wife is independent and a seven. Flipping the table now gives her a solid chance to start over while she has these things going for her. You owe her that much, at least, after two decades of loyal marriage. If you know you are not going to be happy and cannot honor your commitment, get out now while she still has a good chance to rebound to something better.
Meanwhile you will nuke your life and whatever "the one" person you dumped her for while turn out like shit. Then just like Wormie and Lindz, you will never be seen in this thread again because you wont be able to face the music when it turns out everyone here was right. Thus your transformation into bored housewife will be complete like theirs was.
I HOPE you man up on this, because I think you realize how good you have it. If Noodle can be a champ with a slob wife who never orgasms and won't let him spend his own time/money how he wants, I am pretty sure you can handle a few years of missionary sex until your dick slows down around 50. In the meantime, I recommend the highly underrated movie
Hall Pass that just about completely covers your situation. You are the Jason Sudeikis character, btw....
But Khane said it best. What kind of man do you want to be?
